The DNA Relatives feature is one of the most interactive features of 23andMe, allowing you to find and connect with genetic relatives and learn more about your family. Participating in DNA Relatives is optional. When your 23andMe results become available, you are given the choice to participate. You'll see the following notice when you log in to your account:
You have the ability to change your participation status at anytime through DNA Relatives or your account settings. If you are expecting to see a known relative in your list and that relative does not appear, check with them to make sure they have opted in to participate in DNA Relatives.